Today’s episode covers something that pretty much everyone will go through at one time or another in their lives; conflict in relationships. It is often joked about that opposites attract and a common difference that creates that opposition is contrasting approaches to life. One partner may look at things from a fact-based viewpoint while another may come from a more emotional perspective. Really, there is no right and wrong, but these differing positions can certainly create conflict! When that happens, what do you do? Local counsellor, Mary Lambrecht, hopes to answer that question in today’s discussion. Mary is a Texas and Wisconsin State-licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who is passionate about helping couples learn healthy habits and patterns in communication and conflict resolution. With Mary, partners and families learn how core differences, family-of-origin patterns, and emotional wiring affect their respect and understanding of the other and, in this episode, you’ll hear about some of the helpful (and healthy) tools she teaches for communicating, understanding, and addressing conflict better. Tune in today to find out more!
Key Points From This Episode:
“Of high importance to the feeling-oriented person is to be understood.” — Mary Lambert, LMFT [0:07:10]
“Efforts go a long way because, when we’re hardwired differently, it can be hard to understand each other’s point.” — Mary Lambert, LMFT [0:08:26]
“Looking for the dream or the priority underneath the facts is very important.” — Mary Lambert, LMFT [0:16:41]
“Couples can get caught in the same unhealthy cycles of communication, and that triggers the same unhealthy response or reactions, and that triggers anxiety. A counsellor can help to interrupt that unhealthy cycle, early in the conflict, with new insights.” — Mary Lambert, LMFT [0:24:45]
“There’s nothing too small to put significance [on] regarding honor and respect and moving over to the other’s perspective, no task or interaction too small in daily life.” — Mary Lambert, LMFT [0:40:23]
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
‘The Twelve Step Sequence’
’10 Habits for Emotionally Intelligent Couples’
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