Children are much more adaptable than is often expected of them, but they are also aware of much more than their parents may think. Jessica Leger, clinical social worker, play therapist, and our guest on today’s show, describes children as having the capacity to be “emotional sponges.” This means that it is vital that parents, whether they are getting divorced or going through a tough time in their marriage, ensure that their children are protected from the brunt of the adult issues being experienced. As a divorced parent herself, and through her work with many children of divorced parents, Jessica has valuable advice for how parents can soften the blow of separation for their children. That being said, there are many circumstances where children will need additional support, and Jessica shares the types of behaviors which signal that a child is not coping well with the changes, and the kind of help they may require.
Key Points From This Episode:
“A lot of kids are emotional sponges. They know whenever people are upset.” — Jessica Leger [0:03:08]
“In addition to the story, in addition to keeping kids out of the middle, is to let them know what to expect.” — Jessica Leger [0:17:58]
“You want to give [children] permission to talk to you about whatever, and to be heard.” — Jessica Leger [0:22:10]
“Kids don’t just come in and sit and express themselves like us adults do. They use their toys and they do what they need to do with the toys, whether it be with doll house figures or puppets or drawing or books.” — Jessica Leger [0:26:46]
“Kids are going to be okay. They really will. You give them a developmentally appropriate story, you stay consistent, open to communication and working on your relationship with your child, they’re going to be fine.” — Jessica Leger [0:34:48]
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